Dating and Relationships for Single Women over 40
Dating and Relationships for Single Women over 40
‘Fear’ when dating…
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If you keep telling yourself things about you and if G-d behold other people tell you similar things then it must be true right?
Wrong, but if you keep telling yourself the same negative input again and again you’ll eventually ‘become’ these thoughts and even transmit them unconsciously chasing any man away for miles!
Do you have doubts about yourself when it comes to dating? You are not alone and the good news is that what information you ‘put in’ you can also ‘take out’! A lot of it has to do with ‘repetition’ just as when you heard negative comments long and often enough you developed a limiting belief around it!
The good news is that as an adult you now have free will and can take such a belief, hold it in your hand, view it, turn it around, upside down and re-examine if the information still holds true today – gaining a new perspective! Some things sit as deep as childhood and a little hint here, what your daddy told you once in his anger at age 5 would most probably NOT apply today, right?
Are you telling yourself or have you been told that you are:
Shy
Unattractive
Too old
Not good enough
Not worthy
You’ll never get him or it will not last, etc.
How about you start an argument with your little inner gremlin and start asking him ‘says who?’ Each ‘limiting’ belief on your part can only be one if you agree and let it!
I call myself a master of arguing with little gremlins, so, if you can’t shut him up let’s smash him together!
Now the secret in changing a pattern and belief are opposite, positive affirmations and repetition!
Even better I would say print out a sheet i.e.:
Gremlin: ‘You’re not good enough’, Me: ‘I’m a great catch and here’s why…’
Gremlin: ‘It will never last’, Me: ‘I’m going into this journey enjoying the moment, being present, with no expectation (that picture I always paint in my head) of the outcome!
Etc.
Go ahead, make a list, print it and hang it on your fridge door etc and read it once in the morning, once in the evening for at least 4 weeks and let me know how that goes for you!
TIP: fold you sheet in half so that you only see the Me – positive affirmations side!
Dating & Relationship Coaching for Single Women over 40!
866-628-9602
If you keep telling yourself things about you and if G-d behold other people tell you similar things then it must be true right?
Wrong, but if you keep telling yourself the same negative input again and again you’ll eventually ‘become’ these thoughts and even transmit them unconsciously chasing any man away for miles!
Do you have doubts about yourself when it comes to dating? You are not alone and the good news is that what information you ‘put in’ you can also ‘take out’! A lot of it has to do with ‘repetition’ just as when you heard negative comments long and often enough you developed a limiting belief around it!
The good news is that as an adult you now have free will and can take such a belief, hold it in your hand, view it, turn it around, upside down and re-examine if the information still holds true today – gaining a new perspective! Some things sit as deep as childhood and a little hint here, what your daddy told you once in his anger at age 5 would most probably NOT apply today, right?
Are you telling yourself or have you been told that you are:
Shy
Unattractive
Too old
Not good enough
Not worthy
You’ll never get him or it will not last, etc.
How about you start an argument with your little inner gremlin and start asking him ‘says who?’ Each ‘limiting’ belief on your part can only be one if you agree and let it!
I call myself a master of arguing with little gremlins, so, if you can’t shut him up let’s smash him together!
Now the secret in changing a pattern and belief are opposite, positive affirmations and repetition!
Even better I would say print out a sheet i.e.:
Gremlin: ‘You’re not good enough’, Me: ‘I’m a great catch and here’s why…’
Gremlin: ‘It will never last’, Me: ‘I’m going into this journey enjoying the moment, being present, with no expectation (that picture I always paint in my head) of the outcome!
Etc.
Go ahead, make a list, print it and hang it on your fridge door etc and read it once in the morning, once in the evening for at least 4 weeks and let me know how that goes for you!
TIP: fold you sheet in half so that you only see the Me – positive affirmations side!
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